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MY APPROACH

Therapy with me isn't about "managing" better, that's just more performing.

We get underneath it.

I use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) as the foundation, drawing on Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) when helpful. But our sessions won't feel clinical or theoretical, they'll feel human.

Here's what we'll do together:

Understand where the patterns came from
The experiences that taught you your worth was conditional. That mistakes were dangerous. That "good enough" wasn't safe.

Identify what they're protecting you from
Often, criticism, rejection, judgment, or the deep fear of being fundamentally flawed.

Challenge the beliefs running the show
"I'm only valuable if I'm perfect." "If people see the real me, they'll leave." "I have to earn the right to rest."

Build something new
Self-trust instead of self-criticism. The ability to make decisions without catastrophizing. Permission to be imperfect and still worthy.

Practice in real life
You'll leave each session with something tangible, a reframe that shifts your perspective, a tool to interrupt the spiral, or just more breathing room than you had before.

WHAT MAKES MY APPROACH DIFFERENT

I don't just teach you coping strategies. (That would be like rearranging furniture in a burning house.)

I help you examine the fire itself, where it started, what's fuelling it, and how to actually put it out.

I bring warmth, directness, and clarity. I'll use metaphors when they help things click. I'll call out your inner critic when it shows up. And I'll genuinely celebrate your progress, even when you can't see it yet.

You won't leave sessions feeling more confused or overwhelmed. My goal is to make things clearer, not murkier.

MY BACKGROUND

I've worked in mental health for eight years across the NHS, charities, and emergency services.

I've supported a wide range of people, from veterans and emergency responders navigating the emotional impact of high-pressure roles, to individuals struggling with anxiety, depression, PTSD, low self-esteem, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, people-pleasing, panic, social anxiety, health anxiety, OCD, and phobias.

This breadth of experience has taught me something crucial: these struggles aren't character flaws. They're survival patterns that made sense once but don't serve you anymore.

Your perfectionism protected you when mistakes had consequences. Your people-pleasing kept you safe when your needs weren't welcome. Your overthinking tried to control outcomes when uncertainty felt dangerous.

These patterns were adaptive once. Now they're exhausting you.

And you don't need to live like this anymore.

QUALIFICATIONS

PGDip in Psychological Therapies (CBT)
Canterbury Christ Church University

PGCert in Advanced Practice in Psychological Wellbeing
University of Surrey

BSc in Psychology with Criminology
Nottingham Trent University

I'm committed to ongoing professional development and regularly engage in clinical supervision to ensure I'm providing the highest quality, evidence-based care.

WHAT THERAPY WITH ME LOOKS LIKE

First Session:
We'll talk about what brought you here, what you're struggling with, and what you want to be different. No pressure to have it perfectly articulated—we'll figure it out together.

Ongoing Work:
Each session builds on the last. We'll identify patterns, understand their roots, and actively work on shifting them. Some weeks feel like breakthroughs. Others feel like maintenance. Both are valuable.

The Pace:
We move at a speed that feels right for you—not where you think you "should" be. This isn't a race.

The Relationship:
I'm direct but warm. I'll challenge you when it's helpful and hold space when you need it. You won't be judged for crying, for not doing "homework," or for struggling. This is the one place you don't need to perform.

A NOTE ON STARTING THERAPY

If you're reading this and thinking "but am I really struggling enough to need therapy?",that's your perfectionism talking.

You don't need to be in crisis to reach out.
You don't need to hit rock bottom first.
You don't need to have tried everything else.

If you're exhausted from holding it all together, that's enough.
If you're tired of performing "fine," that's enough.
If you just want things to feel lighter—that's enough.

You don't have to earn the right to feel better.

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Hi, I'm Jasmin.

I help high-achieving women who look like they have it together,but privately feel like they're drowning.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapist (CBT) supporting adults to build self-worth, confidence, and emotional wellbeing

If you're here, you're probably exhausted.

Not just tired, bone-deep exhausted from:

  • The constant mental gymnastics of trying to say the "right" thing

  • Performing "fine" while falling apart in private

  • Saying yes when you mean no because disappointing people feels dangerous

  • Lying awake replaying conversations, convincing yourself everyone thinks you're incompetent

  • Feeling like a fraud despite objective success

You look successful on the outside. But inside? You're running on empty, held together by perfectionism and the belief that if you just try harder, you'll finally feel "good enough."

Here's what I know: You're not broken. You're just running patterns that don't serve you anymore.

And that's exactly what we work on together.

My Approach

Therapy with me is warm, collaborative, and grounded in real-life strategies. I believe CBT should be empowering—not clinical or cold. We'll work together to:

  • Make sense of the thoughts and behaviours keeping you stuck

  • Understand the roots of your low self-worth

  • Break unhelpful cycles and develop healthier ways of thinking

  • Build confidence, resilience, and self-compassion

I use evidence-based CBT techniques, but I also bring metaphors, humor, and creativity into our work so that therapy feels human, relatable, and useful—not just theoretical.

You won’t be judged or rushed. I’ll meet you where you are and help you grow from there.

WHO I WORK WITH

I specialize in supporting women aged 18+ who are:

High-achieving but constantly doubting themselves
You've accomplished objectively impressive things, but you attribute it all to luck, timing, or fooling people. Imposter syndrome is your constant companion.

Perfectionists paralyzed by the fear of getting it "wrong"
You rewrite emails endlessly, procrastinate on projects you'd excel at, and can't make decisions without spiraling about every possible outcome.

People-pleasers who've lost touch with what they actually want
You're the reliable one everyone calls. You show up for everyone. But when someone asks what YOU need? You genuinely don't know.

Overthinkers who can't turn their brain off
The Sunday night dread. The 11pm thought spirals. The constant analysis of every interaction. Your mind is exhausting you.

Anxious about being "too much" or "not enough"
You're either apologizing for existing or pushing yourself to do more, be more, prove more. There's no in-between where you're just... enough.

FEELING UNSURE? LET'S TALK.

Starting therapy is a big step. It's important that it feels like the right fit.

That's why I offer a free 15-minute consultation call, no pressure, no sales pitch. Just a conversation to:

  • Ask any questions you have

  • Get a feel for how I work

  • See if this support feels right for you

No commitment. No expectations. Just a gentle first step.

SESSION DETAILS

Location:

Format:

  • 50-minute sessions

  • Usually weekly (we can discuss what works for you)

WHAT I DON'T OFFER

I don't provide crisis support. If you're unable to keep yourself safe, please:

READY TO STOP PERFORMING AND START LIVING?

You've been holding it together for everyone else for so long.

What if you had a space where you didn't have to?

Where you could be messy, uncertain, imperfect, and still completely welcome?

Where the goal isn't to become a better version of yourself, but to stop being at war with who you are?

That's what I'm offering.

If you're ready, I'm here

Book your intro call
“The essence of cognitive therapy is to help a person be unburdened by his past and future, and to live in the present with full meaning and satisfaction.” ”
— - Aaron T. Beck
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Therapy That Helps You Feel More Like You

You’ve spent so long trying to be what others need — keeping the peace, staying “low maintenance,” being the one who copes. But deep down, you’re tired of feeling like too much or never enough. You’re ready for something to shift.

As a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist, I support thoughtful, self-aware individuals who want to stop overthinking, soften their inner critic, and start showing up as their real selves — without guilt or apology.

We’ll work together to understand the beliefs and patterns that keep you stuck, and gently challenge them using practical, evidence-based tools (CBT, CFT, ACT) that support real, compassionate change.

This is a space where you don’t have to perform or prove anything — just show up as you are.

If you’re ready to reconnect with who you are (beneath the people-pleasing and perfectionism), I’d love to walk that path with you.

Feeling unsure? That’s completely okay.
Starting therapy is a big step — and it's important that it feels like the right fit.

That’s why I offer a free, no-pressure 15-minute call.
It’s simply a space to ask questions, get a feel for how I work, and see if this support feels right for you.

No commitment. No expectations. Just a gentle first step.

Book your free 15 minute consultation

Where do sessions occur?

Sessions can take place virtually via video call or in person at The Practice Rooms Tunbridge wells:

The Practice rooms
96 High Street, Tunbridge Wells, TN1 1YF

https://thepracticerooms.co.uk/room-rental/centres/tunbridge-wells